Sandie was so happy to be apart of my Project 40|40, a photographic correlation put together in celebration of women in their 40’s, 50’s, 60’s and beyond!
I turn 65 in a couple of weeks time and I honestly can’t understand how it’s come around so quickly. One minute I was dancing to “When I’m 64”, the next minute I was! This milestone birthday, plus participating in the ‘40 over 40’ project has given me cause to reflect on my life so far.
The thing about aging is that if you’re lucky then your brain and heart doesn’t age as quickly as your body. So in your head you still feel 35 but your external shell reflects something different and I think the secret to aging happily is to keep that younger brain still show in your eyes, your spirit and your actions. I really enjoy the company of young people and I still love loud music, dancing and being silly. However, my older years have made me a better person. I am kinder, more empathetic, less selfish. As the lovely David Bowie famously said “”Ageing is an extraordinary process whereby you become the person you always should have been”.
I was born in the UK, brought up in South Africa and came to Australia with my husband and two children 18 years ago. My mother alternated between being smothering and abusive so I forged an independent life for myself as soon as I could. She married three times and whilst this caused stress and trauma to my younger self, each man was good to me and contributed something positive to my life. A childhood of constantly moving homes and countries, and a seemingly endless stream of dysfunctional relationships made me insecure, restless and cautious of forming ones of my own so I travelled a lot in my 20’s, married late and had my children in my early 30’s. They are the best people that I know and recently the oldest, my son Simon presented me with the greatest gift of all, our first grandson who is the light of my life.
My work life has been varied and interesting even though in my haste to leave home I didn’t get a tertiary education. I have been a computer programmer, a trader on the Johannesburg stock exchange, a marketing and communications manager and now an editor for a university research centre. I have learned so much from so many interesting characters;
love your body and treat your mind to respect it
tell me, how do you dream of being photographed?